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How to Win an Ex Back
Three powerful and time tested strategies to win an ex back and bring back happiness to your life
1. Take a good look at yourself: When you first fall in love with your partner, what type of a
person were you? In the first place, your partner was attracted to you because he/she
feels good about you, and you were fulfilling his/her emotional needs. Sure enough when a
partner strays, others will tell you ‘people change'. However, I want you to take a moment
and think “Have I changed?” Be that person whom your partner was once deeply in love
with. Your partner strays because his/her needs are not fulfilled. Think of what you can
do to save the relationship. Correct bad habits and mistakes, if any. Remember, you have to
change in order for the external world to change.
2. Do not stick to your partner like glue:
Practice detachment. Never show your desperation and craving no matter how bad
you want him/her back. This will only make your situation worse. Make sure you don’t
make it seem like you want him/her back. Be a carefree and independent person. As
mentioned earlier, you must be able to give her true and unconditional love no matter what
happens. At the same time, cultivate the hobbies and attitude as such that you are fully
responsible for your owns happiness. You really do not need to depend on another
person to experience happiness and peace. If you learn to cultivate this pattern, you will
realize that your lover will be the one who is scared of losing you!
3. Do not stop them from seeing other people:
If you start to complain, cry and whine, that you will instantly drive him/her away to that
third party! Human nature is as such that the more you stop them from having something,
the more they want it! On the other hand, respect his/her choices and freedom. Do not
let jealousy set in. Let them do whatever they please and let them know that you will always
be there. Soon they will realize that you are a better person than your rivals as you respect
them more than anyone else does.
Go out and take a breather. Staying at home and thinking of the breakup will not help you win back your ex. Spend some time to analyze the situation and find out the reasons that caused the breakup. Do not beg your ex to come back. Change any bad habits that you have. Do not try to change, manipulate, force, threaten and restrict him/her; You must be able to give true and unconditional love to him/her no matter what happen; Respect his/her choices; Remember what happened to cause you two to break up and don't let it happen again. If you broke up because one of you were jealous, show him/her that things have changed and that you have more trust in him/her. You can't really control other people, so don't try too hard Give up and face reality if its not working. If your ex was the one to end the relationship then it is likely that they won't want you back so try just being friends and maybe in the future they may change their mind, don't push it