The Wiccan Rede

Bide the Wiccan Laws we must In Perfect Love and Perfect Trust. Live and let live. Fairly take and fairly give. Cast the Circle thrice about To keep the evil spirits out. To bind the spell every time Let the spell be spake in rhyme. Soft of eye and light of touch, Speak little, listen much. Deosil go by the waxing moon, Chanting out the Witches' Rune. Widdershins go by the waning moon, Chanting out the baneful rune. When the Lady's moon is new, Kiss the hand to her, times two. When the moon rides at her peak, Then your heart's desire seek, Heed the North wind's mighty gale, Lock the door and drop the sail. When the wind comes from the South, Love will kiss thee on the mouth. When the wind blows from the West, Departed souls will have no rest. When the wind blows from the East, Expect the new and set the feast. Nine woods in the cauldron go, Burn them fast and burn them slow. Elder be the Lady's tree, Burn it not or cursed you'll be. When the Wheel begins to turn, Let the Beltane fires burn. When the Wheel has turned to Yule, Light the log and the Horned One rules. Heed ye Flower, Bush and Tree, By the Lady, blessed be. Where the rippling waters go, Cast a stone and truth you'll know. When ye have a true need, Hearken not to others' greed. With a fool no season spend, Lest ye be counted as his friend. Merry meet and merry part, Bright the cheeks and warm the heart. Mind the Threefold Law you should, Three times bad and three times good. When misfortune is enow, Wear the blue star on thy brow. True in Love ever be, Lest thy lover's false to thee. Eight words the Wiccan Rede fulfill: An ye harm none, do what ye will.
- Blessed Be -
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Sunday, October 24, 2010

Surviving the Pain of Being Alone

It is late at night as usual I am awake, I stumbled across this article. I take no credit for it but I felt that it was worth while to share it here as while. As usual I provide the original link here from Rinatta Paries.

This article is relevant for anyone single or in a relationship, or married, happily or unhappily.

I suspect the pain of being alone is a universal human experience. And I suspect most people seek out relationships to avoid or soothe this pain. Most people will stay in a relationship that is not working as a way to avoid this pain.

Unfortunately, no relationship can relieve the pain of being permanently alone. Even in the best of relationships, there always comes a time when our friends, family, and partners are not available and we are alone.

When you feel alone, what do you do?

If you seek out relationships or stay in relationships because you can't deal with being alone, the time you are in fact alone can be unbearably painful. And the time you are with someone will be bittersweet because you will know on some level that you will be alone again soon.

One of the marks of maturing emotionally is learning to bear with and even thrive when alone. And your successful ability to be alone is what allows you to have the best relationships of your life.

The successful ability to be alone can mean the ability to feel alone and lonely without the need to seek someone out to fill the void. It can also mean being alone but not being lonely, with the void filled with creativity or self-expression, or
passion for pursuit of something that matters to you.

Successfully being alone specifically means being alone without filling the void with negative things, or behaviors or numbing out.

How can your ability to be alone allow you to have amazing relationships? Here is how:
* You do not end up in a relationship simply so that you are not alone -- you actually choose who you are in a relationship with.
* In times of trouble, you let your partner go and work out whatever he or she needs to work out, without the fear of being alone -- you have already faced that fear.
* If the relationship is not meeting your needs or is hurting you and your partner refuses to alter behavior that will make a difference, you can walk away because you have already faced being alone.
* You have leverage with your partner -- often, your partner will change his or her behavior rather than risk losing you.

How can you face your feelings about being alone? Here are some powerful steps.

1. Stop doing all of the behaviors that help you avoid being alone.
2. Feel your feelings and know they are only feelings.
3. Continue to not do behaviors that stop the feelings of being alone.
4. Practice self care -- sleep, eat, exercise, read, talk to yourself gently.
5. Do not numb out with activities that stop feelings.
6. If you fall off the wagon and numb out, simply go back to not doing these behaviors and allow yourself to feel your feelings of being alone.
7. Know the feelings will pass and you will be a stronger, more resilient, more powerful person on the other end.
8. Watch yourself as you go through your life and thwart any move on your part to relieve the feeling of being alone.
9. Trust yourself and your own ability to take care of yourself.
10. Use this method to face any other fear that may prevent you from living the life you want.

Good luck and let me know how this works for you.

Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries

As I personal note I hope that you find something here that helps "you".  Be Blessed  Andye

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